When we began this adoption process in April of 2012, my perspective on open adoption was quite skewed. If you asked me then what I thought about potential visits with our future child's birth mom or dad, I probably would've told you that would make me uncomfortable. If you suggested maybe even visiting our child's extended birth family, I may have thought that was a crazy idea. I probably wouldn't have wanted it that way. Afterall, I've watched Lifetime Movie Network a time or two and have seen how those stories turn out. They never go well.
Thank goodness I have since been very much educated about open adoption and how beneficial it is for not only our child, but for us and his birth family.
Today we sat down for nearly two hours in a room, all by ourselves, with two people who love our son unconditionally. They are his birth grandparents. They drove over 5 hours one way, just to see him for a short time. They just sat there and stared at him, tears in their eyes, and thanked us over and over again for allowing them to be a part of our son's life. They played with him, took a million pictures, smiled, laughed, cried and even fed him his bottle. They brought him presents & even included a nice card for us along with a gift card to a local restaurant so we could have a date night.
We are so incredibly blessed to know our son is so loved by not only us & our family, but by his birth family and extended birth family. Open adoption will allow them to watch him grow throughout his life. I'm so happy I was educated about openness in adoption. What a blessing it is.
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