Thursday, February 19, 2015

To the little girl I was before infertility

To the girl I was before infertility,
  You have big plans for yourself.  Sometimes when you play barbies, you picture what life will be like when you grow up.  You'll meet your prince, get married, buy a house, have babies and live happily ever after.  Your story will be a great one, but it will have a lot of twists and turns along the way.   You will meet your prince charming, he will look so cute driving his orange pick up truck to school each day and will pass you love notes in the hallways at your small town high school.  Years down the road, when you are packing for a move across country, you will find those love notes and read them to eachother.  You will laugh so hard you almost pee your pants.  It will be great.
Then you will buy a house, it will be the house that you start a family in.  You will be so excited.   You start picking out baby names and writing them down to pass the time when driving on the long road trips to visit your families.  Your husband will just look at road signs and start calling out silly names like "Gas Lee" or "Diesel Fuel". Little do you know, that  list you saved will one day bring you to your knees in tears when you find it tucked away in a drawer.   You see, young lady, your road to motherhood will be a roller coaster ride.  Trust me when I tell you, it will all work out as it's supposed to.  Your husband will become the strongest man you know and will pick you up off the floor when you feel like you can't.   He will be helping give, what feels like thousands of shots, so that you might achieve pregnancy.  It will not work, and when it doesn't,  you will be so angry.  You will scream and throw things.  You will question God and his motives.  You will cry so many tears, you'd think you couldn't cry anymore. Afterwards,  you will put on your big girl pants, release all your anger and put your trust in God.  There will come a point when you and your husband embrace God's plan.  Your faith will become stronger and you will start to see the bigger plan.  You will become the mother of the most amazingly,  sweet, and curious little boy.  You will bring his birth family into your lives and it will be the most wonderful blessing.   All of this will happen and you will be on the other side of infertility.   Yes it will still be there.  That won't change, but your plans will.  While you are busy making plans for your life, God is busy making better plans.  So little girl, please don't be discouraged.   God knows what He's doing. You will live happily ever after.

2 comments:

  1. I love this post!!!! It makes me want to write a letter to my former self before infertility. Thank you sweet friend! ❤️ Amber D.

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    1. You should! It's therapeutic to look back on your life and see that God's plan was much better!

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